So I'm in the TWW. The time where I obsess every other minute about whether I am pregnant or not and stare at my FF chart for thirty minutes without blinking (spoiler alert: it hasn't changed in that timeframe). Is that an implantation dip? Yay! My chart is risssssing!! Temps looking up. I am hopeful. I wink seductively at DH across the dinner table and ponder baby names. Wait! The temps are falling, sh***t why are they falling! Despair. I am a FAILURE. I will NEVER conceive. I need to run a marathon or start my own business and make billions of dollars so that I can look at myself in the mirror and not feel like the failure that I know I am. I hate all pregnant women and all babies. I need to be a super model or at least a very fly person! Who, even if she is not pregnant, is a women and is HOT! Yes, the temping rollercoaster is not fun in the TWW (when is it ever?). And yet, I look forward to putting a thermometer in my mouth every morning as a "reward" for not peeing on a stick because it is way too early for that (more on this later). And then there is the symptom spotting. Every month, I PROMISE myself that I will not do this. It is crazy. And irrational. I am neither of those things. I will be super cool and chill this month. I will just "forget" how many dpo I am (you know what this means, don't pretend that you don't). I will just forget the predicted exact day of AF in FF and ignore the CM or lack of CM and stop worrying about the timing of BDing in the TWW whilst I am TTC (is it sad that I even think in acronyms now?). And then I do the symptom spotting mind f**ck non-stop for at least fourteen days. Was that A TWINGE in my boobs? Why are they so large!? Nausea = MS? Why am I so hungry?? Why am I so tired? Why do I have a cold in the middle of summer? And then the really nasty stuff...I will peer into the toilet bowl after every bowel movement and look for those whispy things called leukorrehea or something like that I can't spell it. I will search every shred of toilet paper for slippery or creamy CM. In short, I will ask the toilet gods for answers about whether I am pregnant. Then I reach 9 dpo - finally!!! I can finally allow myself to POAS tomorrow (I told you we would get there). I am amazing because I have waited until 10 dpo to do this. I am not as crazy as those other ladies on the Internet forums that have been testing since 3 dpo. I am sane. I have only googled "how early can I take a pregnancy test" 15 times since yesterday. It will be a BFN, no question about it, but I am prepared for that. I will not be crushed and then there is always HOPE for the next test at 12 (and also 14) dpo. OK ladies, that's all for now. Wish me luck tomorrow morning for the test because I am scared and super emotional and, if you haven't gathered this by now, I hate the TWW!! -sadtoday21
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This is the number one question on nearly every woman's mind as soon as she hears the terrible news. Sometimes it feels like trying again is the only way to stop the pain of the miscarriage from consuming you. Medical advice on this issue is NOT straightforward at all. Doctors generally advise to wait one cycle, but they say this is just for dating purposes and not medical reasons. Based on my own experience, conversations with other women, and discussions with medical professionals, you do need to know two important things: (1) you can get pregnant immediately after mc and (2) these pregnancies are more likely to be chemical and end in early miscarriage again. Give your body (and your uterine lining!) time to heal by waiting one full menstrual cycle before ttc again, if you can. How long did you ladies wait? -@sadtoday21 Your blog post goes here! Click on the "blog with us!" link to send a short post about issues you are facing or questions you have about ttc again!
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