I remember paying for a private eight week scan, I had found out I was pregnant March 30th 2019 and despite this being a shock as I had only just stopped taking my pill, myself and my fiancé were delighted.
During the scan I knew instantly something was wrong. The midwife wouldn’t turn the screen and was taking a long time and I truly believe gut instinct can tell you a lot. I KNEW before she said.... As it turned out, there had been a twin pregnancy which was an identical twin pregnancy which is considered a ‘higher risk’ pregnancy. The twins had made it to 8 weeks but no heartbeat on either. I cried that night thinking why had this happened to me. I’m 28 and everyone told me I had all the time in the world. I felt that I had been given something so out of the blue and had it taken away in an instant. When I went to the hospital a few days later I was given my options. I opted for a medically managed miscarriage. That Friday (exactly one week after the original scan) I was taken into a private room where they administered the tablets. Now to prepare you, this isn’t the nicest experience. Tablets are inserted both vaginally and in the rectum to begin the miscarriage process. One of the tablets is a high dosage pain killer to help with the discomfort and you are then given antibiotics to take to prevent infection. I lay on the bed with an iPad watching a movie as I waited to see what happened. Nothing happened for around 2 hours apart from some cramping which was uncomfortable. Then all of a sudden I started to vomit, this is a side effect of the tablets and I knew everything was about to start happening. Now the feeling was like no other... I almost felt something slipping out and I had to run to the toilet. You have your own toilet and have to pass everything into a bed pan so they can monitor how much has passed. I’ll be honest that I never knew what was passed out, I didn’t see any fetus. Everytime you went to the loo was the same process followed by tugging on a cord which causes a nurse to come in and collect the bedpan. This continued for around 4 hours and then my bleeding tailed off. The hospital then discharged me and asked me to come in for a follow up scan the following week. My bleeding continued for over a week with more tissue passing out as it did in the hospital. During my follow up scan they confirmed my pregnancy had passed and I should be given the all clear the following week. I will say for anyone considering this method, my experience was positive. The NHS treated me incredibly well and they had the most positive attitude towards me concieving again. This has made me positive for the future. I would advise to take the following two weeks after off work as you will bleed! I ended up passing more tissue and pregnancy at home and I wouldn’t have managed at work during this! Take as much time as you feel you need. I’ve learned that there is no right and wrong answer. -@Kiki061190
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